Sometimes there is a resistance to letting go of that person, that experience, that way of thinking, that behavior. Why? Because ultimately, it somehow, in some way serves us, on an unconscious, neurological level. This is what is known, in the tapping world, as secondary gain. So, the next time you think to yourself, “Why the F*CK can’t I let go?! It’s been years but I feel like I am still holding on” remind yourself that maybe there is a reason that is preventing you from even beginning the process of letting go. The best thing about tapping is that you go gently, you go slowly, and the technique meets you where you’re at. No rush.
Think of something or someone you would like to let go of. Say out loud, “I am NOT ready to let go of__________.” How true does that feel on a percentage scale? 40%? 62%? Just notice where you feel this resistance to letting go. Where does that live in your body?
Let’s honor that part that is not ready to let go through some tapping.
Tap with me:
side of the hand: Even though I am not ready to let go of this, I accept myself for having these feelings. Even though I don’t want to let go of this, I accept myself anyway. And even though I really don’t want to let go of this, I honor myself for feeling this way.
top of the head: not ready to let go of this
eyebrow: just not ready to let go
side of the eye: I can’t let go of this
under the eye: I won’t let go of this.
under the nose: I am not ready to let go of this
under the mouth: not ready
collarbone: I am not ready to let go
under the arm: not ready to let go
Breathe deeply. Say out loud again, “I am NOT ready to let go of___.” How true does that feel now. What is your body doing? Notice was shifted and what didn’t.
Tapping can help #tapthat feeling down and eventually, provide the opportunity to start over.
